I always thought that everybody’s holidays were full of family. I mean family like generations. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, lots of cousins, nieces, and nephews. The traditional blood relatives. All gathered around getting along, baking cookies and singing Christmas carols. I know that thought is a little delusional but still it is what I believed!
For some reason, because I didn’t have tons of relatives surrounding me, I felt sad and like I couldn’t really celebrate. Like I wasn’t supposed to.
My mom’s parents were both deceased when I was born and my father’s mother died during childbirth and we weren’t close with my dad’s father and step-mother. So it was just us four… no grandparents, no cousins, just our little family most years. It felt so small during the holidays.
I’ve been trying hard to re-invent how I celebrate the holidays, especially now since my mom passed away. I am ready to stop feeling like I can’t celebrate because I don’t have a large traditional family and am creating my own holiday family. It isn’t traditional, but it is mine and believe me, it looks completely different than the Norman Rockwell paintings!
This week I celebrated Christmas with a group of young ladies that are a mixture of 4th and 5th graders from Caldwell Elementary, a bilingual school, in McKinney, Texas. They have named themselves “The Caldwell Chica’s”. I am going to share the whole party with you soon!
Then, of course, I have this huge Spoons Family, that continues to grow and grow!
For the last 6 years at the cafe, we have hosted a Christmas Eve pajama party. I got the idea from a family that had started their own Christmas Eve family tradition by coming to Spoons in their pajamas for breakfast. Right, then and there I told them I was making that a Spoons Cafe tradition and would now host a Christmas Eve Pajama Party.
The first year we did it I was scared to death that no one would show up in their pajamas, except the Spoons staff, well, guess what we were packed with family’s, that I thought I did not have, in their pajamas eating pancakes and waffles!! We have already been getting calls to make sure we are still doing it because it is now one of their family traditions! How cool is that?
Since then we have even added a visit with Santa, so everyone can get their last request in before the big day!
These are just a few ways that I’m changing things up. I’m decking my halls, planning my pajama party and setting my heart on the true meaning of Christmas.
After all, Jesus wasn’t exactly born into a traditional family either.
Anyone else out there celebrating the holidays in a non-traditional way? I’d love to hear about it!